{"id":228207,"date":"2026-05-19T15:59:24","date_gmt":"2026-05-19T13:59:24","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/actitudes.ch\/?p=228207"},"modified":"2026-05-19T16:12:27","modified_gmt":"2026-05-19T14:12:27","slug":"resource-center-18-key-factors-the-power-of-vulnerability-by-brene-brown","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/actitudes.ch\/en\/ressourcerie-18-facteurs-cles-the-power-of-vulnerability-by-brene-brown\/","title":{"rendered":"Resource Center 18 key factors: The power of vulnerability by Bren\u00e9 Brown"},"content":{"rendered":"<section class=\"bde-section-228207-100 bde-section\">\n  \n  \n\t\n\n\n\n<div class=\"section-container\"><div class=\"bde-video-228207-101 bde-video\">\n<div class=\"ee-video-container\">\n                                                                        \n                <lite-youtube\n                        videoid=\"iCvmsMzlF7o\"\n                                                style=\"background-image:inherit; \"\n                        class=\"ee-video lazyload\"\n                        title=\"\"\n                        params=\"&playsinline=0&rel=0&enablejsapi=1\"\n                 data-bg-image=\"url(https:\/\/i.ytimg.com\/vi\/iCvmsMzlF7o\/maxresdefault.jpg)\">\n                <\/lite-youtube>\n                    \n        \n            \n    <\/div>\n\n<\/div><div class=\"bde-rich-text-228207-104 bde-rich-text breakdance-rich-text-styles\">\n<h3>\u00a0<\/h3>\n<h3>The idea behind the Resource Center of the 18 key factors is to enable the sharing of resources - related to one or more of the 18 key factors for sustainable teams. Whatever the form of the resource, sometimes it could be a reading, a podcast, a good practice that a person has experimented with or experienced in their organization, a tip, etc.\u00a0<\/h3>\n<p>This resource was shared with us by a Leader\/Manager during one of the \"Exploring Sustainable Teams\" Days.\u00a0<\/p>\n<p>\u00a0<\/p>\n<\/div><div class=\"bde-rich-text-228207-105 bde-rich-text breakdance-rich-text-styles\">\n<h2 data-path-to-node=\"3\">The Power of Vulnerability: What Bren\u00e9 Brown Teaches Us About the Courage to Be Ourselves<\/h2>\n<p data-path-to-node=\"4\">What if our greatest weakness actually hid our greatest strength? In 2010, researcher Bren\u00e9 Brown took to the TEDxHouston stage to share a decade of research on human connection. What she revealed there moved millions of people: to live fully, we must accept being vulnerable.<\/p>\n<p data-path-to-node=\"5\">Here is the story, tinged with humor and sincerity, of her scientific quest that transformed into a true personal awakening.<\/p>\n<hr data-path-to-node=\"6\" \/>\n<h3 data-path-to-node=\"7\">When a researcher becomes a \u00abstoryteller\u00bb<\/h3>\n<p data-path-to-node=\"8\">Bren\u00e9 Brown begins her talk with an amusing anecdote. While she was scheduled to speak at an event, the organizer called her, embarrassed: <i data-path-to-node=\"8\" data-index-in-node=\"159\">\u00abIf I say on the flyer that you're a researcher, no one will come, because people will think you're boring and out of touch with reality. On the other hand, I loved your talk because you tell stories. I'm going to write that you're a storyteller instead.\u00bb<\/i><\/p>\n<p data-path-to-node=\"9\">After a moment of recoil from her academic ego, Bren\u00e9 Brown accepted this dual identity: <b data-path-to-node=\"9\" data-index-in-node=\"102\">\u00abStories are perhaps just data with a soul.\u00bb<\/b> So she is a researcher-storyteller.<\/p>\n<p data-path-to-node=\"10\">Her initial goal as a doctoral student in social work? To measure everything and rationalize everything. Her motto was simple: if life is chaos, you have to tidy it up and put it in a well-ordered box. But human reality proved to be much more complex.<\/p>\n<h3 data-path-to-node=\"11\">The discovery of shame and disconnection<\/h3>\n<p data-path-to-node=\"12\">While studying <b data-path-to-node=\"12\" data-index-in-node=\"15\">connection<\/b> \u2014 which she defines as the reason for our presence on Earth and what gives meaning to our lives \u2014, Bren\u00e9 Brown encountered an unexpected obstacle after only six weeks of research.<\/p>\n<p data-path-to-node=\"13\">When people are asked about love, they talk about heartbreak. When they are asked about belonging, they talk about exclusion. And when they are asked about connection, they share stories of disconnection. The culprit? <b data-path-to-node=\"13\" data-index-in-node=\"234\">Shame.<\/b><\/p>\n<blockquote data-path-to-node=\"14\">\n<p data-path-to-node=\"14,0\">\u00abShame is the fear of disconnection. It's this thought: \"Is there something about me that, if others find out, will make me unworthy of connection?\"\u00bb<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n<p data-path-to-node=\"15\">It's a universal feeling. And what underlies this shame is an <b data-path-to-node=\"15\" data-index-in-node=\"73\">unbearable vulnerability<\/b> : the idea that, for connection to happen, we must agree to be seen, truly seen.<\/p>\n<hr data-path-to-node=\"16\" \/>\n<h3 data-path-to-node=\"17\">The secret of those who live \u00abwhole-heartedly\u00bb (Whole-hearted)<\/h3>\n<p data-path-to-node=\"18\">Hating the idea of vulnerability, Bren\u00e9 Brown decided to spend six years dissecting the subject to try to \u00aboutsmart\u00bb it. By analyzing thousands of data points, she separated participants into two groups: those who have a deep sense of their worth, love, and belonging, and those who constantly struggle to obtain them.<\/p>\n<p data-path-to-node=\"19\">Only one variable separated these two groups: <b data-path-to-node=\"19\" data-index-in-node=\"47\">people who feel a strong sense of love and belonging simply believe they are worthy of it.<\/b> By studying more closely these people she calls \u00ab <i data-path-to-node=\"19\" data-index-in-node=\"225\">whole-hearted<\/i> \u00bb (who live whole-heartedly), she discovered essential commonalities:<\/p>\n<ul data-path-to-node=\"20\">\n<li>\n<p data-path-to-node=\"20,0,0\"><b data-path-to-node=\"20,0,0\" data-index-in-node=\"0\">Courage (in the original sense of the term):<\/b> Derived from Latin <i data-path-to-node=\"20,0,0\" data-index-in-node=\"56\">cor<\/i> (heart), original courage means telling the story of who you are with your whole heart. These people had the courage to be imperfect.<\/p>\n<\/li>\n<li>\n<p data-path-to-node=\"20,1,0\"><b data-path-to-node=\"20,1,0\" data-index-in-node=\"0\">Compassion:<\/b> They were kind to themselves first, then to others.<\/p>\n<\/li>\n<li>\n<p data-path-to-node=\"20,2,0\"><b data-path-to-node=\"20,2,0\" data-index-in-node=\"0\">Authenticity:<\/b> They were ready to give up what they <i data-path-to-node=\"20,2,0\" data-index-in-node=\"63\">should<\/i> be to be who they truly were.<\/p>\n<\/li>\n<li>\n<p data-path-to-node=\"20,3,0\"><b data-path-to-node=\"20,3,0\" data-index-in-node=\"0\">The acceptance of vulnerability:<\/b> They did not find vulnerability comfortable or pleasant, but simply <b data-path-to-node=\"20,3,0\" data-index-in-node=\"118\">necessary<\/b>. It's the courage to say \u00abI love you\u00bb first, to launch a project without guarantee of success, or to wait for the doctor's call.<\/p>\n<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<hr data-path-to-node=\"21\" \/>\n<h3>The researcher's crisis (or spiritual awakening)<\/h3>\n<p data-path-to-node=\"23\">For Bren\u00e9 Brown, this discovery was a shock. The goal of scientific research is to control and predict. However, her own data showed her that to live well, one had to stop wanting to control everything and accept vulnerability.<\/p>\n<p data-path-to-node=\"24\">This conflict caused in her what her therapist called a \u00abspiritual awakening\u00bb (and which she rather describes as a depression or a year-long street fight). She had to put away her measuring tools and learn, too, to surrender to vulnerability.<\/p>\n<hr data-path-to-node=\"25\" \/>\n<h3 data-path-to-node=\"26\">How we numb our lives<\/h3>\n<p data-path-to-node=\"27\">Why do we fight so much against vulnerability? Because we try to numb it. The problem, explains the researcher, is that <b data-path-to-node=\"27\" data-index-in-node=\"142\">we cannot selectively numb our emotions<\/b>.<\/p>\n<blockquote data-path-to-node=\"28\">\n<p data-path-to-node=\"28,0\">\u00abYou can't say: \"Here are the bad emotions (vulnerability, grief, shame, fear). I don't want to feel them, I'm going to have two beers and a banana muffin.\"\u00bb<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n<p data-path-to-node=\"29\">When we numb these difficult feelings, we also unintentionally <b data-path-to-node=\"29\" data-index-in-node=\"92\">joy, gratitude and happiness<\/b>. We then become miserable, we search for meaning, we feel vulnerable... and the vicious circle continues.<\/p>\n<p data-path-to-node=\"30\">To escape this vulnerability, we make other mistakes:<\/p>\n<ul data-path-to-node=\"31\">\n<li>\n<p data-path-to-node=\"31,0,0\"><b data-path-to-node=\"31,0,0\" data-index-in-node=\"0\">We transform uncertainty into rigid certainties<\/b> (in politics or religion: <i data-path-to-node=\"31,0,0\" data-index-in-node=\"85\">\"I'm right, you're wrong, shut up\"<\/i>).<\/p>\n<\/li>\n<li>\n<p data-path-to-node=\"31,1,0\"><b data-path-to-node=\"31,1,0\" data-index-in-node=\"0\">We blame others<\/b> to evacuate our own pain.<\/p>\n<\/li>\n<li>\n<p data-path-to-node=\"31,2,0\"><b data-path-to-node=\"31,2,0\" data-index-in-node=\"0\">We want to make everything perfect<\/b>, including our children. However, our role as parents is not to make them perfect beings for Yale, but to tell them: <i data-path-to-node=\"31,2,0\" data-index-in-node=\"157\">\"You are imperfect, you are made for struggle, but you are worthy of love and belonging.\"<\/i><\/p>\n<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<hr data-path-to-node=\"32\" \/>\n<h3 data-path-to-node=\"33\">The path to a full and whole life<\/h3>\n<p data-path-to-node=\"34\">Bren\u00e9 Brown concludes her talk with a call to change perspective. There is another way, which rests on four pillars:<\/p>\n<ol start=\"1\" data-path-to-node=\"35\">\n<li>\n<p data-path-to-node=\"35,0,0\"><b data-path-to-node=\"35,0,0\" data-index-in-node=\"0\">To allow oneself to be seen<\/b>, deeply and vulnerably.<\/p>\n<\/li>\n<li>\n<p data-path-to-node=\"35,1,0\"><b data-path-to-node=\"35,1,0\" data-index-in-node=\"0\">To love with all one's heart<\/b>, even if there is no guarantee.<\/p>\n<\/li>\n<li>\n<p data-path-to-node=\"35,2,0\"><b data-path-to-node=\"35,2,0\" data-index-in-node=\"0\">Practice gratitude and joy<\/b> in moments of terror, telling ourselves: <i data-path-to-node=\"35,2,0\" data-index-in-node=\"78\">\"Feeling this vulnerable simply means I am alive.\"<\/i><\/p>\n<\/li>\n<li>\n<p data-path-to-node=\"35,3,0\"><b data-path-to-node=\"35,3,0\" data-index-in-node=\"0\">Believe that we are enough.<\/b> This is the most crucial point. When we act with the intimate conviction that we are \u00abenough,\u00bb we stop shouting and start listening. We become softer, more benevolent towards those around us, and above all, towards ourselves.<\/p>\n<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n<p>\u00a0<\/p>\n<\/div><div class=\"bde-rich-text-228207-102 bde-rich-text breakdance-rich-text-styles\">\n<h3>If you have a supportive resource that you would like to share in turn, related to one or more of the 18 key factors for sustainable teams, we invite you to do so here:<\/h3>\n<p>\u00a0<\/p>\n<\/div><div class=\"bde-button-228207-103 bde-button\">\n        \n    \n    \n    \n    \n            \n                    \n            \n            \n\n    \n    \n    \n    \n    \n    <a class=\"breakdance-link button-atom button-atom--primary bde-button__button\" href=\"https:\/\/actitudes.typeform.com\/ressourcerie18F#user_id=xxxxx\" target=\"_self\" data-type=\"url\"  >\n\n    \n        <span class=\"button-atom__text\">Submit a resource<\/span>\n\n        \n        \n                <\/a>\n\n    \n\n\n<\/div><\/div>\n<\/section>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>\u00a0 L&#8217;id\u00e9e de la Ressourcerie des 18 facteurs cl\u00e9s est de permettre le repartage de ressources &#8211; en lien avec l&#8217;un ou plusieurs des 18 facteurs cl\u00e9s pour des \u00e9quipes [&hellip;]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":6,"featured_media":228209,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_acf_changed":false,"_price":"","_stock":"","_tribe_ticket_header":"","_tribe_default_ticket_provider":"","_tribe_ticket_capacity":"","_ticket_start_date":"","_ticket_end_date":"","_tribe_ticket_show_description":"","_tribe_ticket_show_not_going":false,"_tribe_ticket_use_global_stock":"","_tribe_ticket_global_stock_level":"","_global_stock_mode":"","_global_stock_cap":"","_tribe_rsvp_for_event":"","_tribe_ticket_going_count":"","_tribe_ticket_not_going_count":"","_tribe_tickets_list":"[]","_tribe_ticket_has_attendee_info_fields":false,"_breakdance_hide_in_design_set":false,"_breakdance_tags":"","wds_primary_category":276,"footnotes":""},"categories":[147,86,276,187],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-228207","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-securite-psychologique-confiance","category-leadership-fr","category-ressourcerie-18-facteurs","category-video"],"acf":[],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/actitudes.ch\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/228207","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/actitudes.ch\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/actitudes.ch\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/actitudes.ch\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/6"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/actitudes.ch\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=228207"}],"version-history":[{"count":2,"href":"https:\/\/actitudes.ch\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/228207\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":228224,"href":"https:\/\/actitudes.ch\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/228207\/revisions\/228224"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/actitudes.ch\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/228209"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/actitudes.ch\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=228207"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/actitudes.ch\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=228207"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/actitudes.ch\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=228207"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}